vtmomof2 responded September 7, 2007 at 1:02PM

  Life is crazy but wonderful.

Did he give a reason as to why he doesn't want to be there? Maybe he feels uncomfortable seeing you in pain. It is a little personal and maybe that makes him uncomfortable also. Find out his reason and see if you can make a compromise. I'm sure they have a nice waiting room in your hospital where he can hang out, and than after the baby is born he could come in and hold the baby. By the sound of your post that is what you really want, for your dad to hold your baby.

  bradensmommy responded September 7, 2007 at 2:05PM

  Kiara 3/02-5/02 Braden 6/03 In the Belief that EVERY CHILD SHOULD LIVE

I want him to see and hear the babies first cries. He is an very stubborn retired Navy man, fortunatly for me in his stubbornes the apple didn't fall far from the tree ;)

  LatteMommy responded September 8, 2007 at 12:07AM

  LatteMommy

do what I want to do to my father...knock him upside the head with a frying pan to knock some dang sense into the man.(jk) i had a scheduled induction and then an emergency c-section & I just wanted "someone" from "MY" family to be there for me but my father (the only parent left in my life) wouldn't take off work to be there for me (when they take off all the time for some kind of vacation) and that still ticks me off that I had "no one" from "MY SIDE" of the family there for me. I was fortunate to have my DH's parents there and 'his' brother & sister-in-law & nieces....who all saw me at my absolute worst ever! Ouuuuu sore spot there.
You deserve your father there with you and he deserves to be there too. Remind him of how precious this time is and you never get a second chance at it. A true bonding time. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Good luck.

  bestmommy responded September 10, 2007 at 5:56AM

  life is beautiful so live every moment

may be he has some problem due to which unable to come.. my suggestion is you talk to him openly and tell him why and how important it is to you and him too.. talk to him..good luck