nadaplum responded September 20, 2007 at 12:20AM

  

I didn't get a baby shower either. I did for my first pregnancy and now people I guess seem to think we don't need one. I still have 3 weeks left to my due date but I am already in the first stages of labor. So I really don't think I am having one. It's very depressing; I know. My husband and I are scrambling trying to make sure we have everything. And now we are having a boy so we need all new stuff. Try dropping some hints around your friends and family. Or maybe your husbands co-workers. Any neighbors?

  LatteMommy responded September 20, 2007 at 12:35AM

  LatteMommy

Oh man, wish we lived closer...I'd throw ya a shower. Try dropping some strong hints around. I thought we were only suppose to get one baby shower for our first child and then we were done, but I've been hearing more and more about 2nd baby showers. Are we to have a baby shower for each baby? that is they way I think it should be.... a baby shower for each precious wee one.

  rockergirrl responded September 20, 2007 at 1:08PM

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I didn't get one my second time. It wasn't really that I wanted stuff but I see a shower also as more of a celebration. A celebration of they baby and of becoming a mother again. I was very bummed that none of my friends thought to do anything.

  vtmomof2 responded September 20, 2007 at 1:30PM

  Life is crazy but wonderful.

I was always told that you only get a baby shower for the first one, and only for the second one if there is a number of years between them. Of course, I don't buy this, I think you should have a shower for each one. I had a shower for both of mine, but they were 6 years apart and I had nothing left after my daughter. Throw yourself a shower, put your hubby's name on the invitation, and have a wonderful jack and jill party.

  dustbunny responded September 20, 2007 at 1:49PM

  dishing the dirt, cleaning the chaos

You don't have anyone to give you a party? dang...I'm sorry. As for needing new things, buy consigned/yard sale. You can get good stuff cheap.I had mini-showers AFTER the second babies arrived. With my first I was kind of snobby, now I jump on any hand-me-down crap I don't have to buy.

Can you double-up and attend your sister-in-law's shower? does she live near you? do you have a random acquaintance you could at least plan a post-baby party with? Man, I have tons of baby toys/stuff...message me your address lol and I'll ship it over :) (for real if you know what you need)

If I lived near you, I would totally throw you a party (surprise, surprise)

  bestmommy responded September 21, 2007 at 2:21AM

  life is beautiful so live every moment

dont be depressed.. I agree with vtmomof2 throw yourselves a party and enjoy

  Sticky_Mommy responded September 26, 2007 at 11:28AM

  I love my job, it gives me a break from my kids!

I was bummed b/c I didn't get a shower for my 2nd. I think people feel you got what you needed for the first. But I thought of it as a way to welcome my 2nd.

I would either throw a "Welcome the new Baby" party or ask for one from your SIL saying your FIL wanted to do this, but didn't get a chance.