vtmomof2 responded July 28, 2007 at 8:16AM

  Life is crazy but wonderful.

I didn't gain any weight when I was pregnant for daughter (my husband left and I went through a divorce during my pregnancy so it was stress not luck) and I gained an amazing amount of weight for my son, all fluid. I lost all the weight but my stomach after 2 c-sections & a baby that weighed 10.5 is completely stretched. I lost my muscle tone in my lower belly and I was reading that the only way to get it back is to have surgery so I am stuck with it. I am wearing the same size I was before I had my daughter & son and was within 2 weeks of each. But my body did change and I think there are some things that just change after a baby. It has been 4 years after my son has been born and I am still trying to lose a little weight not pregnancy weight but sahm weight, the kind you gain from just being home around food all the time and eating kid food.

  rockergirrl responded July 28, 2007 at 10:43PM

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pre baby shape? what is that?

  beachin responded July 29, 2007 at 11:09AM

  Every family has a story, tell yours today www.pagesofalifetime.com

As hard as it sounds, you need to get into a routine. Get a pilates tape or other exercise video and right after you feed the children breakfast, pop it in. Give yourself the 20 minutes in the morning. Don't worry if the dishes are done, the baby is fussy, or you have other things to do. You deserve time for yourself. No one is going to give it to you. You have to be responsible for taking it. It is ok to put things off for 30 minutes while you put yourself first.

  LatteMommy responded July 29, 2007 at 8:29PM

  LatteMommy

I was rollie pollie with DD in the oven. I gained almost 40 lbs with her. I ate cantaloupe so much that I thought she would come out looking like one! LOL. She is 3 yr. 4 mo. and the "girls" are still BIG (DH doesn't mind, but my back & hips do) and I want them smaller. Yup, I'm weird like that...growing up thing. My hips have yet to go back (& most likely never will), I really miss my flat tummy (had a c-section).... BUT my upper arms are what drive me frigin crazy, they got really big during pregnancy and they have stayed like that...drives me nutty. I am dieting now ... on week 2 (salad's & eating healthy food - low sugar & carbs watching)...feel better but need to add the exercise now. Will try treadmill again tomorrow. It's hard and really effects your self-esteem, but WE CAN DO IT.
I REALLY want the body I had 7 yrs. ago when I got married. I'm working on it.

  dvd1711 responded July 30, 2007 at 10:02AM

  

Ok, I'm not a moomy, I'm a daddy so I hope you don't mind me chiming it. You're beautiful. Period. Got that? Good.

Now, the best thing you can do for your family is to take care of yourself. If exercise makes you feel good do it. But, until you can get into the new swing of things be patient with yourself. I know my wife talks down to herself and I hate it. How can you take care of yourself when you put yourself down? You can't.

Once my wife grabbed her belly and said, "Look at this." and she meant it in a bad way. I said, "I love it, my babies lived there." She said I scored points, but I meant it.

Love yourself in averyway. Be proud to be a mom, and take care of yourself with actions as well as words.

Peace.
/Dave

  Sticky_Mommy responded July 30, 2007 at 11:15AM

  I love my job, it gives me a break from my kids!

You have to look and feel good at every stage. Get yourself some pices that make you feel you now. Do not delay, you deserve it.

I'm almost at my weight, but my body is sooo not the same. And yes, I could be trying harder too. I do feel better when I get some exercise and that's my motovation - plus I'm going on a cruise with my girlfriends in 3 weeks!

I love DBD1711 comments - what a sweetie!

  dustbunny responded July 31, 2007 at 8:14AM

  dishing the dirt, cleaning the chaos

also a huge fan of wntw...anyway, pre- baby shape happened 9 mos after baby 1- thaw was a fluke though....prebaby shape almost happened after baby #2- about a year and a half...then after baby 3...permagut