vtmomof2 responded June 19, 2007 at 9:50AM

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I agree, my daughter is the same way, my son hasn't learned yet that grandma will spoil him. I have tell her before she goes over not to beg for anything too expensive because grandma feels like she has to buy it. I tell her and grandma only a few small things, mainly clothes because we can always use those, no more toys though.

  rockergirrl responded June 19, 2007 at 10:51AM

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When we travel and visit relatives I let our home rules slide. My kids know that what goes on at my sisters house or my parents house doesn't happen at home. I still set limits on things with them but I do find letting things slide helps a lot. In the same breath though I would be firm with your parents that you are willing to let them get a little spoiled but you would still like to set some limits so it doesn't get out of control. Grandparents get special rights but the parent is still the one in control.

  Newbee responded July 3, 2007 at 12:53AM

  

I have the same experience with my step-daughter, she knows what she can get away with each of her Grand Parents. My Mother lets her eat whatever junk food she wants and lets her stay up way past her bedtime. When she comes home she is a bear. I tried to explain to my Mother that it just isn't heathy to sit down and eat a whole pint of Ben & Jerry's ice cream. I try to choose my battles with my Mother. The junk food I usually speak up about but the late bedtime I let slide. With my husbands Mother I catch her being disrespectful at times. That bothers me most. I have said to Grandma, that we don't allow her talk to adults that way and you shouldn't either. One day I came to pick her up at Grandma's and received comment about the 4 candy bars she ate. I said now if she has no self control don't you think as the adult you should have it for her. Then there was silence.