karriejean responded January 22, 2008 at 4:58PM

  Massage therapist, martial artist, butt-kickin' momma.

You're pregnant, plain and simple. Life turns upside down and you just have to roll with it. When pregnant your body belongs to your baby. Yes, you can feel awful, but know that it will get better. Maybe you should share with your husband your dreams and your stresses. That way he becomes involved. Let him know how you are feeling! That's the best way to resolve this. It's very, very difficult to be pregnant and be stressed. Take out the stress and you may find yourself enjoying being pregnant. Good luck!

  dhiya responded January 23, 2008 at 5:23AM

  

You will feel better if you share it with your husband and even maybe have a good laugh together after that.Mood swings are expected during pregnancy and there is nothing to worry about it.Just be happy and enjoy every bit of your pregnancy.Everything will be fine,all the best to you:)Have a nice day:)

  vtmomof2 responded January 23, 2008 at 9:20AM

  Life is crazy but wonderful.

our dreams usually reflect our inner most fears. In our sleep we can safely play out our fears to deal with them. If you experienced a cheating spouse before, then it is normal to have some anxiety. My first husband cheated on me and left me when I was 5 mos pregnant. When I was pregnant with my 2nd hubby with our son I also had anxiety. Your dreams are trying to help you deal with your anxiety over a previous experience. It is a fear that you feel, you will have to deal with the fear. Admit it to yourself, and ask yourself if there is a real reason to have this fear, once you realize that this a leftover anxiety from your last experience you can close that part of your life and move on to create a new experience. If you are feeling alone, and I know what you mean, I mean how can your hubby participate really?? Tell your hubby that you need some extra support. Maybe a dinner out or something special, even cuddling on the couch while watching tv can make you feel less alone. I have learned one thing about relationships sometimes you have to ask for what you want, your hubby probably doesn't realize you feel lonely. Good luck to you, it will get better once the hormones are normal to.

  Sticky_Mommy responded January 23, 2008 at 1:05PM

  I love my job, it gives me a break from my kids!

Hormones are the devil! It's not fair.
I think we are more critical of ourselves then other people, don't hate your bod. You're doing an amazing thing by growing that baby. I never thought it was fair to have pregnant models, how can we compare ourselves to them?
I agree with vtmomof2 - ask for what you want. And if you don't know what you want say that. At least get it off your chest.

  LatteMommy responded January 23, 2008 at 7:13PM

  LatteMommy

Welcome to pregnancy. Yes to all the above. Been there done that. Here is a tip that my husband told me.... Most men, when their wife is pregnant they are EVEN MORE ATTRACTED TO THEM. Your hormones are causing those whacked out dreams. I literally had a dream that I was flying ya know with wings and all and my unborn child was flying right along beside me. Yup thought we were about to die or something. Freaked me out so much that I told my mid-wife and she reassured me that it was hormones. I didn't like my rollie-pollie body either. I totally understand what you mean by you feel like your whole world is falling apart. JUST BREATHE!!! Take a day for just yourself and please pamper yourself NOW! You need it. Pregnancy massage is great. Go to someone who specializes in it. Do a romantic night out on the town...just the two of you. Do that as much as you can and can afford. You won't have many times for all the above after wee one comes into the world. Go on vacation!! Get rest NOW how ever you can find it. All will be okay, keep the Faith. We are always here for a vent.