vtmomof2 responded July 18, 2008 at 8:33AM

  Life is crazy but wonderful.

I think the perfect number of kids is the number that you are comfortable with and can provide for. I have heard that the third child isn't as big a change as the second. I wouldn't know because I stopped at 2. My hubby and I were going to have 3, but after my son was born we decided that 2 was the right number for us. When I was pregnant, my hubby wanted to get pregnant again as soon as it was possible, but I had a rough pregnancy and delivery for our son (he was 10 lbs 5 ozs and I had a c-section that resulted in the cutting of my bladder and bladder surgery which led to 10 days with a catheter) After that I decided right away that I would never get pregnant again and my hubby had a vasectomy. We have never regretted that decision. Now that our son is almost 5 and our daughter is 10, we are happy we decided not to have another baby. I have gone back to school to eventually start a new career when our son is in school full time. There are so many considerations when deciding to have another baby. Our daughter was 5 when we decided to get pregnant for our son and that was a real consideration, the fact that she was going off to school and we would be starting over with a baby. It was difficult, but it worked out for us, but I am really happy with 2. Another thing is that yearning for a baby that I had before I got pregnant for our son is completely gone. I have no desire for another baby and neither does my hubby. I think that is the best indication that we are done.

  BigKid131 responded July 21, 2008 at 2:41PM

  I'm a big kid now.

I would say two. I come from a two child family and I can't imagine it any other way. Maybe it is because I've seen the Brady Bunch and I always felt a little sorry for Jan - I never wanted to have someone in my family feel that way. With two, they have a playmate but aren't ganged up on.

I agree with vtmomof2 though in regards to it being your decision - if it is two, three, or more, you will know. Each child is a gift, so can you really go wrong with another?