sandy6474 responded March 10, 2008 at 2:15AM

  

Hi Mommy.. I think you should check out this link
http://www.mybaby.com/PlaygroundItem/Item/4928/Tips_on_Cooperation_for_0_to_5YearOlds.htm
..We are there to help you. dont get worked up :)..

  benbaby responded March 10, 2008 at 6:26AM

  Goofing around with my babies - Big and Lil

Hi, This is the age when kids throw tantrums to get your attention. As parents we have to have high energy levels and involve them in our work as well though it gets messy to make things interesting for them !!

  dustbunny responded March 10, 2008 at 8:04AM

  dishing the dirt, cleaning the chaos

hi...I went to a parenting workshop (a good one) and the presenter said never water the weeds...the "bad" or attention-seeking behaviors are weeds. Just say, I'll wait...and wait until he shows you what he wants. think of him as totally frustrated because he's old enough to know what he wants but doesn't quite have all the skills to speak. show him his efforts at communicating are worth his while. if you react to the tantrums, he'll learn that for m of communication works at getting what he wants. good luck!he's just testing you for when he turns three (a very "testing-mommy" filled year)

  ARWBear responded March 11, 2008 at 1:49PM

  sleep will not come, but dreams will not fade

Thank you ladies, for your comments! The book I just got discusses the same suggestions you all have given. Thanks for the good advice and not telling me to dump him in a "naughty playpen" for time out.

  dustbunny responded April 1, 2008 at 10:45AM

  dishing the dirt, cleaning the chaos

how are things going?

  ARWBear responded April 1, 2008 at 8:58PM

  sleep will not come, but dreams will not fade

Well, we're still having quite a few fits of screaming during the day, but progress is being made! We've instituted a timer system in my house. I started at 15 minutes to do mommy stuff, followed by 15 min. of playtime, and so on. Gabriel helps me set the timer (he loves to push buttons =) ) and then we're off. The more comfortable he's getting playing on his own, the less we have to tame the screaming. It seems to be working for now.. also, lots and lots of time to play outside. The sunshine works wonders bless Springtime!

  Kelmcmom responded April 9, 2008 at 10:02PM

  Diggin the motherhood gig

I hear ya! My girl has started to have "fits" like that and she is about a year old. Bach Arching, SHOUTING and her little face will turn red and she will shake for a second. YIKES! It's like they are trying out their new emotions. I feel ya though. She will just yell for no reason. ugh. I really do think I have the loudest kid in the world. Good luck to you. Advil advil advil.

  DianaR responded June 8, 2008 at 12:22AM

  

This might sound harsh, but remember I am older, have raised my kids, have grand kids, and work with special needs kids.

If you give him what he wants, then he will continue screaming to get what he wants.

If he has been fed, his health is fine, and he doesn't need something like a diaper change, it is better to relegate him to his bed or drib until he has calmed himself, and it is important that he learn to do this. It is also important that he learn that you will have nothing to do with him when he flies into a rage like this.

Once he has quieted himself then you can talk to him about how much you like to be around him when he is calm.

"Terrible Two's" are independent and contrary, but flying into a rage isn't something associated with healthy expression.