I met up with a 4 year old's
mom this evening who was worried about her daughter's strange behaviour
in school. Her daughter is very naughty and fights with anybody who
would not agree with her ways to do things. The school
teacher spoke to her this morning to tell her that her daughter
pretended to act ignorant and stupid in class if she was asked to do
something which she was not interested in. She is extremely stubborn
and wants her way always. This child is ever ready to play with others
toys and never willing to share her own with anybody even for a second.
She had visited her friend recently whose grandma said she had never
seen a child as badly behaved as this before. She is the only daughter
for her parents and they've pampered her with all the toys and books
that they could afford. They want her to get into the best schools. But
are the parents to be blamed for the child's stubbornness by being too
easy going ? I guess all these childish behaviours will sort out soon
as they grow but, what could be the solution for the current problem?
I'm worried that perhaps even I may have to go through the same phase
as the neighbour. My toddler is getting very demanding and wants his
way always. He is very determined for his age. To keep him happy we
mostly let him have his way. Quite often we think that he is too small
and should wait some more before we start disciplining him. As parents we
always want to do the best for our children, but does that mean we are
spoiling our children?
