thanks for the warm welcome!  so i have a question for you guys to help me answer.  my husbands job gives him set hours.  so i'm wanting to know, as a mom, when does my day end?  my husband and i got into a pretty heated debate this afternoon about the helping hand.  let me give you the run down.  my husband took off early from work because he has a bad back and it was acting up on him.  i understood when he needed to lay down and rest, but when it came to the point the i was fixing dinner and he was still laying on the couch watching tv, i decided to make a comment.  the kids were both awake and needed entertaining and i just wanted him to get up and help at least until i was done making the food.  after asking hi if he was going to help me watch the kids any tonight or just lay around and watch movies, he got up to go play with them, but continued to have an unpleasant attitude.  after asking him what his deal was, he decided to ignore me to the extent of not even looking me in the face.  so i brought myself to acting just as childish as he was, and took some of his belongings and threatened to "displace" them.  i didn't expect to find myself in a situation where i had to follow through with my threats.  unfortunately he continued to ignore me and my temper escalated to the point where he felt it necessary to leave the house.  he has not called to tell me where he went or when he'll be back and i feel like it's so unfair to leave me with the kids wondering what he's doing and if he's alright.  i am very tempted to leave on a small vacation myslef, just to get away from the house, but i don't know if his thoughts about the severity of the fight is the same as mine.  any ideas ladies?