newby123 responded June 13, 2008 at 3:16PM

  

I don't think you are being nit picky. When I was pregnant I told my Husband I was afraid of our relationship changing once I had the baby. His response was that it wouldn't happen to us. It didn't take very long to figure out that with a new baby in the house it was really hard to find time to be intimate. After a couple of months without any personal time I brought it up. I started the conversation by saying, "wow I now know what people mean when they warn you to make the time for eachother." I told him I missed him even though we see eachother every morning, every night and on the weekends. Our first sexual encounter was so awkward it wasn't funny. I didn't know if we should start by kissing or what, not to mention we were in a rush to get the "deed" done before the baby woke up. Needless to say it wasn't that fulfilling an experience for me. The next time was a little better and the time after that a little better. My Husband is really good at giving me the kisses and hugs and really he is better at remembering than me. Just talk to your Husband about it. Start the conversation without using the "you make feel..." entrance. Instead, tell him you miss him, that you love him and that quite simply you don't want to let the distance your feeling to grow any larger. I find if you take your share of the responsibility for you problems up front the man looks at it as working together to solve a concern and less like you are blaming him for your unhappiness. I hope it helps to know you are not alone. I definitely understand. Good luck and take care.