rockergirrl responded June 15, 2008 at 7:57PM

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I am sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my first child when she was 9 weeks old. I found many people did not and still do not understand my grieving. Since mine was before the baby was born most people don't see it the same way as a stillbirth or a death shortly after birth but for us it was still losing a child. Ironically my second child was born two years to the day of her death so his birthday has also been my silent mourning. I think it is important to keep that special day for my son's birthday and her death separate so instead I decided to start celebrating her life instead of her death. I do this by celebrating on the day she would have been born. Each year now on the day she would have been born we buy a plant or flower to plant in our garden in her honor.

  Irish_Chick responded August 3, 2008 at 11:38PM

  

I just lost my 5 1/2 mth old son on 4/16/08. I am doing a terrible job coping. Everything reminds me of him. The family acts as if they are suffering to the greatest extent(as if they suffer more or equal to me) I have no reccomendations, but I am curious to see what help others offer you.....All my best and truly wishing your heart and mind comfort.