I am a new Mom (my baby is 4 1/2 mths old) and my husband has been unavailable a lot lately (fire department, work, dad/daughter time with his 12 year old). I have been relying a lot on my Mother to help me deal with having a new baby and very little assistance. This weekend my Husband was taking a test at the Fire Department all day Saturday and then he took his daughter to a Nascar race on Sunday. I called my Mother Sunday Morning and asked if her and my step father would like to pay me a visit. I explained that I had pretty much been on my own with the baby all weekend and would love someone to visit/play with the baby so I could have a little break. They were happy to do it. They came down and I was able to go grocery shopping and spend some time picking up my house while they spent the time with my son. I was expressing to my Mom how frustrating it is to never be able to find the time to get the house cleaned, run errands or have any me time to speak of. Her response was, " I don't remember it being that hard for me." I asked if she worked outside the house at the time and she said yes. She said she would put us to bed around 8pm and then clean the house. By 8pm I am exhausted, I am usually putting the baby to bed around that time and then I am not far behind him. He has me up around 130am and then again around 430am. I generally just nurse him and he goes right back to sleep but I don't always get right back to sleep. Then I get up between 530am-6am to start getting ready for work and the baby ready for daycare. When my Mother went to leave on Sunday she asked if I was going to be ok until my Husband got home. I said, "Mom I know I talk like I can't handle it but I can." here response was, "I know." Since Sunday I have thought about her comments several times. Am I being a wimp? I really, really wanted to have a baby so should I just grin and bare the tough stuff. I often feel overwhelmed......but I thought that was normal. It never affects how I interact with the baby. I put him first always and know that everything else can wait. Do you think my Mother simply forgot how difficult it was to be a new Mom? I know my Father was even less of a help than my Husband. Have any of you gotten equally insensitive remarks?
