Sticky_Mommy responded September 19, 2008 at 11:38AM

  I love my job, it gives me a break from my kids!

Whoa, that is a tuff call. I'm sorry that your Mom's BFF & Husband betrayed her. I can't imagine. However it sounds like your Mom is doing the best thing and put in a lot of effort and heartache into her decision.

OK, now for the legal stuff. What would your role be a mediator? Just the separation of property? If that's if it sounds like something you could do. If you have to do more then that can you stay emotionally neutral?

I think you need to get your Dad's buy off. Find out why he's uncomfortable. Tell him how you want to help and how much money you are saving them.

  Sullysmama responded September 19, 2008 at 11:38AM

  Will the next one be ginger too??

Here is the abridged version to my previous posting attempt...

I think the most important thing is that all 3 of you agree 100 percent that this is a good idea. I also think that they need to know you are looking at this as a professional opportunity and that you have the ability to stay neutral on every topic. If you don't think you can stay neutral and more importantly, emotionally detached, then I'm not sure it's the best decision. Your relationship is ultimately the most important thing here, so I do strongly think it's a decision you all need to make together.

  vtmomof2 responded September 19, 2008 at 12:01AM

  Life is crazy but wonderful.

My dad is uncomfortable because he is embarrassed by his behavior. Which should tell him it was wrong. I am mad at my dad for many reasons, and this is one thing that I think may get the way. I want to make sure my mom is taken care of because he was the bread winner in the family, and his actions have left her in a bad situation. I have already had my hand in this. This would be completely separation of property and nothing more. I really think the ugliness of the situation is over, my mom isn't even really angry. She is disappointed, but the anger has gone. She is just done. But I'm angry with him for this and other reasons. He has said that this woman and her family are his family, and he has excluded me and my children from his "family." This angers me. I don't know if I will be able to have a relationship with him after this is finally settled, I don't know if I really have a relationship with him now. So maybe I will have her seek a mediator. Maybe I wouldn't be the best candidate.

  benbaby responded September 19, 2008 at 12:28AM

  Goofing around with my babies - Big and Lil

This seems like a really tough decision. IMO you would be doing the job better than anybody else. You know the situation better than anybody else. All you have to do is talk to your parents and tell them about the saving you are making and make a neutral deal.

  Sticky_Mommy responded September 19, 2008 at 1:30PM

  I love my job, it gives me a break from my kids!

Maybe you could hire someone else (have your Dad pay for it) and you look over their work before you present it to your Dad? Or do all the leg work and have someone else present it.

  danielle101282 responded September 22, 2008 at 6:04PM

  

Wow, what a lot to take in. Well people have been telling me I have come from a broken home for years. My parents got divorced when I was 3. Well when I got older I saw why they got a divorce. My life wouldn't have really sucked if they had stayed together. Sometimes people just aren't meant to be together.